Infidelity

«Soon he was online every night until one or two a.m. Often he would wake up at three of four a.m. and go back online. He would shut down the computer screen when I walked in. In the past, he used to take the laptop to bed with him and we would both be on our laptops, hips touching. He stopped doing that, slipping off to his office instead and closing the door even when A was asleep. He started closing doors behind him. I was steeped in denial, but my body knew.»

Suzanne Finnamore


«Most women think cheating is 'disgusting' … until they fall for a man that likes them back; but isn’t willing to leave his lover for them.»

Mokokoma Mokhonoana


«I love you as the mother of my child": the kiss of death.»

Suzanne Finnamore


«Virtually all women will always carry the scars and a deep sense of loss and grief from the betrayal. Whether a woman has stayed, left, or been left, it must be remembered that time is the salve on this journey towards forgiveness and healing, because it is also a process of grieving.»

Meryn G. Callander


«There is that, and there is also the Irreconcilable Differences line. It seems so catchall, so vague. You could say that about anyone, any man and woman at all. Jesus and Mary Magdalene: "Irreconcilable Differences." JFK and Jackie, anyone at all. It´s built into the man-woman thing. What kind of paltry reason is that? "Insanity" is another box to be checked on the divorce petition, the only alternative to "Irreconcilable Differences." I would like to check it.»

Suzanne Finnamore


«Love should not cause suffocation and death if it is truly love. Don't bundle someone into an uncomfortable cage just because you want to ensure their safety in your life. The bird knows where it belongs, and will never fly to a wrong nest.»

Michael Bassey Johnson


«How could you do that to me?" I repeat. I don´t have to itemize. He knows what I speak of.»

Suzanne Finnamore


«It´s like watching someone do a triple backflip dismount and land on two feet, solid, arms splayed in the air. I know I could never do it, don´t even know where I would begin to learn, but some people are built for it. He was handcrafted to leave, had practiced on other women since adolescence. I was one of an unnumbered series.»

Suzanne Finnamore


«I remember one desolate Sunday night, wondering: Is this how I´m going to spend the rest of my life? Marrid to someone who is perpetually distracted and somewhat wistful, as though a marvelous party is going on in the next room, which but for me he could be attending?»

Suzanne Finnamore


«Marriage to the groom does not means that his heart belongs to the bride.»

Dennis E. Adonis


«Naturally, I do blame Françoise. I blame her for having N in the first place. She was young, she was beautiful, she was married to a doctor, and she was intelligent. She could have abstained from producing her first son. It was wrong on a variety of levels.»

Suzanne Finnamore


«When your lover is a liar, you and he have a lot in common, you're both lying to you!»

Susan Forward


«Flannel shirts should be outlawed for ex husbands; I realize this now. Flannel shirts are to women what crotchless panties are to men.»

Suzanne Finnamore


«He left a bit too easily and with obvious relief. His feet were swift and sure on the muddy path.»

Suzanne Finnamore


«I was steeped in denial, but my body knew.»

Suzanne Finnamore


«Stray cats are like two-timing men. He got tired of you and took off. He doesn't find anyone new? He'll come slinking back. By then, if you're smart, you'll have decided you're better without him.»

Kelley Armstrong


«I played possum. I did this, as the possum does, out of fear.»

Suzanne Finnamore


«Only a fool would be patient enough to stay in a totalitarian love affair, and only the insincere will use anarchy to commit the sin of unfaithfulness.»

Michael Bassey Johnson


«They feel life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever decide to have my soul surgically removed.»

Suzanne Finnamore


«So many events and moments that seemed insignificant add up. I remember how for the last Valentine´s Day, N gave flowers but no card. In restaurants, he looked off into the middle distance while my hand would creep across the table to hold his. He would always let go first. I realize I can´t remember his last spontaneous gesture of affection.»

Suzanne Finnamore


«The abandonment came, and now this shabby bacchanal.»

Suzanne Finnamore


«Surprises, I feel now, are primarily a form of violence.»

Suzanne Finnamore


«It is a pity he did not write in pencil. As you have no doubt frequently observed, the impression usually goes through -- a fact which has dissolved many a happy marriage.»

Arthur Conan Doyle


«I saw my reflection in their eyes, but not the men themselves, not clearly. This preserved the idea that all intelligent and even vaguely attractive men were essentially good. Delusion detest focus and romance provides the veil.»

Suzanne Finnamore


«Cheating and lying aren't struggles, they're reasons to break up.»

Patti Callahan Henry


«Dear 2600: I think my girlfriend has been cheating on me and I wanted to know if I could get her password to Hotmail and AOL. I am so desperate to find out. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks.»

Emmanuel Goldstein


«Fidelity is a living, breathing entity. On wobbly footing, it can wander, becoming something different entirely.»

Kay Goodstadt


«My mother is a firm believer in the long pause, useful in interrogations, proclamations of truth, and the occasional cutting dead of someone without their knowing it.»

Suzanne Finnamore


«I´ve blown it, the whole grisly charade.»

Suzanne Finnamore


«Sex isn't all that important, but it is when you love someone very much.»

Ava Gardner